Why Aspies are abused / Asperger's Syndrome

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HomeWhy Aspies are abused / Asperger's Syndrome
Why Aspies are abused / Asperger's Syndrome

Those of us with Asperger's Syndrome often find ourselves vulnerable targets for toxic people; narcissists in particular.

Below are some of the reasons why we are targets for abuse.


1 Too trusting

Aspies view most everything as orderly or requiring order. That applies to human behavior which we seem to view from a distorted black-and-white, right-or-wrong, perspective.

We assume people are, for the most part, kind and considerate. Abusive people are presumed to be rare and easily detected. Consequently, we make the dreadful mistake of trusting almost everyone. We are painfully gullible. We think the used care salesman actually likes us.

2 Shallow support network

Aspies make ideal targets for abuse because our social support network is not deep, but shallow. We have few if any close friends and often distance ourselves from relatives.

Abusers see this. We are easy prey.

3 Passive by nature

Aggression doesn't make sense to empaths. It seems wholly illogical to dislike someone, let alone hate them, simply because they disagree with us. Aspies don't acquire self-esteem through aggression. Rather, we tend to find fulfillment in being creative.

4 Confused

Abuse could be physical abuse, neglect, social rejection, and so on.

Abuse is confusing to Aspies. Our understanding of abuse is reciprocation. Bullying and other forms of abuse simply don't make sense. Why would someone attack me if I've committed no offense?

Sadly, Aspies often internalize abuse by presuming we must be bad people; otherwise, no one would abuse us.

5 Lack innate defense skills

As mentioned in previous videos, Aspies are confused by social networking and social hierarchies. Within the framework is the inability to engage in social fighting. We simply don't know how.

6 Perceived as weird

People naturally dislike those who are different. We naturally prefer those who are part of our in-groups. We like those who are like us.

This has been demonstrated by brains scans in which subjects are shown images of people being pricked by a pin. The region of the subjects' brains associated with pain lights up almost as if they are experiencing the pain themselves. However, the response is subdued when shown images of people with different skin tones.

Aspies are in few in-groups. Consequently, the assumption is that abusers feel less empathy for us than they would for neuro-typical people.