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Why YOU Stay, Narcissist Cheats, Both Triangulate?
Pathological demand avoidance in the bargaining phase of the shared fantasy explains why narcissists cheat (commit adultery, infidelity, have extramarital affairs).
Some spouses elect to have extramarital affairs, deceive their partners, and remain in a marriage devoid of love, intimacy, or, often, sex. Why would any person in his right mind make such a self-defeating and demoralizing choice? Why not abandon ship altogether? Why eat the stale and putrid cake and still have it?
In order of frequency and import:
1. Money: the most recurring and crucial reason. Financial security and prosperity trump all other considerations. Driven by fear, insecurities, and sheer avarice, people sacrifice their individuality, identity, morality, values, their children's mental or physical health as well as their own, and their happiness.
2. Pity, compassion, and care for the partner. This is especially common in couples where one of the partners is parentified. Divorce feels like abandoning a helpless, hurting child.
3. Shared memories and common history. The attachment and bonding are displaced into a counterfactual and fantastic sentimental form of nostalgia. It renders the couple "sticky".
4. The children's interests and welfare come last and are rarely a truly decisive part of the calculus of pros and cons. Parents deceive themselves into believing that their kids are the reasons they are not divorcing when the true, profound motives are the above.
5. Cultural and social mores. In some societies and cultures, divorce is still frowned upon and stigmatized. It also carries inordinate costs (such as losing access to the children and the share in the community property).
6. Peer and family pressures and expectations, including the influence of pastors, therapists, judges, and friends who advocate against the dissolution of the dyad.
7. "Knowing that divorcing a person of this type is sometimes harder than managing to tolerate living with them." (comment on Instagram)
Narcissists cheat on their spouses, commit adultery and have extramarital affairs and liaisons for a variety of reasons which reflect disparate psychodynamic processes:
1. In the quest for narcissistic supply, the somatic narcissist resorts to serial sexual conquests.
2. Narcissists are easily bored (they have a low boredom threshold) and they have a low tolerance for boredom. Sexual dalliances alleviate this nagging and frustrating ennui. The quest for novelty, diversions, and thrills – a vacation from his own life - is combined with a journey of self-exploration and discovery that involves “filling in the gaps” in the narcissist’s biography: a missed adolescence, an old flame, a new aspect of his personality.
3. Narcissists maintain an island and focus of stability in their life, but all the other dimensions of their existence are chaotic, unstable, and unpredictable. This "twister" formation serves many emotional needs which I expound upon elsewhere. Thus, a narcissist may be a model employee and pursue a career path over decades even as he cheats on his wife and fritters their savings away.
4. Narcissists feel superior and important and so entitled to be above the law and to engage in behaviors that are frowned upon and considered socially unacceptable in others. They reject and vehemently resent all limitations and conditions placed upon them by their partners. They act on their impulses and desires unencumbered by social conventions and strictures.
5. Marriage, monogamy, and child-bearing and rearing are common activities that characterize the average person. The narcissist feels robbed of his uniqueness by these pursuits and coerced into the relationship and into roles - such as a husband and a father - that reduce him to the lowest of common denominators. This narcissistic injury leads him to rebel and reassert his superiority and specialness by maintaining extramarital affairs.
6. Narcissists are control freaks. Having a relationship implies a give-and-take and a train of compromises which the narcissist acutely interprets to mean a loss of control over his life. To reassert control, the narcissist initiates other relationships in which he dictates the terms of engagement (love affairs).
7. Narcissists are terrified of intimacy. Their behavior is best characterized as an approach-avoidance repetition compulsion. Adultery is an excellent tool in the attempt to retard intimacy and resort to a less threatening mode of interaction.
Narcissists typically claim that they have cheated in order to “put the spark back into the relationship (with the spouse or primary intimate partner.)”
There are 2 types of triangulation (using a third party to manage the emotional, intimacy, and transactional aspects of a relationship): breakup and restorative.
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Loguns Run in 2021 C.E.
How long could NEW YORK City New York USA stand abandoned, AND still “function” once a Human Population returned as {BLADES OF GRASS} with our limited life spans, and our oh so clever TEMPORARY “Memories” of Childhood, Pre-Teen, Teenager, Youth, then the Ages of 30 to 40 and then 50 too 60 as by the ages of 70 most [HUMANS] Qballs~ /_\ are in decline too die out sometime before or after 80 years of age, and in all that life time: Would (you know) you were lied to about everything since you were born if TV was your ONLY Source of INFORMATION.?.?.? Youm see it does not matter what “U.N. FLAG” you were placed by these U.N. Troops cause THEY LIVE only take orders from these CORPORATIONS, and these (Capitalist) whom run the COMMUNIST Socialist McDonald's OF Made in China to Made in Russia to the McDonald’s in your part of this FLAT EARTH in our Celestial Sphere is still {just one more} FLAG of OCCUPATION for what if youm don’t want a Big Mack, you want a Whopper, and what if you wanted “A Pepsi” at McDonald’s rather then a Coca Cola Product???? Why must you go to places where it is “always” the same thing no matter your U.N. FLAG of these U.N. Troops…
Now we all know COVID-19 is just {JADE HELM 15} renamed for Agenda 21 + 30 and before that it was called REX 84 and before that it was called WW2 – WW1 – Civil War and so on into the books of books where Humans are told to Kill and Murder OUR Fellow Humans made by the SAME CREATOR no matter what your Elders, and Teachers, and Government say otherwise…. Have you ever considered youm are A FOOD SOURCE for creatures called “Symbiots” and SOLIDS that these Thoughts in your HEAD are the most [prized possession] of any and all CORPORATIONS, and ARE not all “Religions” just as much A Military “Militant” Corporation as these U.N. Troops of their WORLD POLICE known as FREE MASON C.O.P.S., or Peacekeepers whom carry (Violent Weapons) no less too say: This Flag gets nothing, but that FLAG of the U.N. Internationalist Mafia from the Southern Hemisphere gets all the Booty, and Spoils, and Tributes of WAR IS MURDER as ROME is these Catholic Jesuit Zionist {NEWS} World Order with their Hollow WOOD “Shows” for every mind set on this Northern Hemisphere of FLAT EARTH.?.?.?
Had you known YOU HAVE [been invaded] by an ALIEN FORCE, and THEY LIVE took over the Weapons of all nations, and all military, and all police, do so too tell me how YOU’M would fight off such an ENTRENCHED People, and Persons, and (Populations) from the OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD no less in our “Shared” Celestial Sphere???? And Yet, once you can pull back and look at the Faked Moon Landings, and all the {Fake Science} and Hypotheses, and Conjectures, and Speculation of this CONSPIRACY of THEORIES presented as Facts no less in every U.N. FLAG Supreme Court of Liars, and Bandits, and Pirates from the [OTHER SIDE] of our Celestial Sphere, youm begin too see THEY LIVE are not as powerful as they had hoped: if WE THE PEOPLE of the Northern Hemisphere know we are in a CELESTIAL SPHERE, and that “all books” are Stories of {lies agreed upon} from the Egyptian Babylonian Chaldean WARS to the complete and utter [take over] of this side of the world by the ROMAN Hollywood Media Militant EMPIRE!!! Than my fellow human, and person born on this side of the world, where do youm stand.?.?.?
It should go without saying since the “COVAX” of Mind Control Vaccines have been put into place, and our children are being (raised) thinking FACE MASK are normal, and that the old surely know what they are doing, and our MOMS and DADS would [not lie] too our faces that we never went to Outer Space cause the FIRMAMENT of the DOME OF THE ROCK “prevents” such nonsensical thinking and no less’ we had no clue what Magic + Code + Alchemy = SORCERY could to do too the minds of our (OLD PEOPLE) whom have been raised on THE RAPTURE of these TV Screens all their life: told too NEVER Question Reality, just go buy a CORPORATION Capitalist “Happy Meal” and TAKE YOUR PILLS at Micky Mouse “La La” Land……., and all will be O.K., and they do….., so this WRIT is not for the old, it is for you the “youth” on this side of FLAT EARTH too know only you can save your {brothers and sisters} and best friends from ENSLAVEMENT by rebellion: in any way youm deem necessary….
Johnny Exodice
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As “always” my Children and People of Pak-Toe we do battle (The Racka) from the Southern Hemisphere in our Northern Hemisphere with all their TV SHOWS, and once youm know whom you are, and what you are, and where you are, and that the world ends in 2094 C.E. no matter what……..,
then WHY LIVE “A LIE” till the day you die when you can {run runner run} into the TUNNELS of the Underworld, and find Passage to the [other side] of the world in our Shared CELESTIAL SPHERE???
The Society of nonmason~
Remember, Remember, The 5th of December when we light a Candle on that date: TOO REMEMBER all our “nonmason” human dead on this side of FLAT EARTH taken and gone by the FREE MASON Lodges of U.N. Troops, and their [connection] +=+ to the Other Side of FLAT EARTH in the Southern Hemisphere of the South Pole Star…
The Sentinel…
We Are Revelation… We do not forgive… WE DO NOT COMPLY!!!! Game Over~
We Are Pak-Toe… We don’t do Racka… WE TAKE THEM OUT!!!
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