How narcissists end relationships

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Controlling YOU feeds the narcissist's ego.
That's it. It's all about control for the sake of ego satisfaction.

Narcissists will create relationships to control others.
Narcissists will end relationships to extend control others.

Okay, let's imagine you are in a relationship with a narcissist. It becomes obvious to you that your friend, love interest, business associate, or whomever is using and abusing you. So, you begin to build barriers.

The narcissist isn't done using you. He or she simply changes the manner in which they abuse you.

In your mind, the relationship is over. In the mind of the narcissist, however, the game is ongoing. Rather than playing offensive, they now play defensive.

Here's how it works.

1. Narcissists mark your words and your actions.

Throughout your relationship, the narcissist has been mentally taking note of your words and actions.

2. Narcissists will embellish the truth.

Now, they will take what you have said and done and embellish them with fabrications.

Take note of this: There is a simple way to make one person hate a second person. You convince the first person that the second person slandered them. So, during your relationship, the narcissist took note of benign words you spoke about others. The narcissist now takes those words and embellishes your words to make it seem as though you were demeaning that person.

Here's an example: Suppose you had dinner at a restaurant with a friend. You later told the narcissist about the dinner and maybe even what you talked about. Years later, the narcissist will mention that dinner conversation to your friend. But the narcissist will make it sound as though you were ridiculing or demeaning your friend. The narcissist version of the dinner seems credible to your friend because you MUST have talked about the dinner (and you did) and so, in your friend's mind, you are guilty as sin.

That, by the way, is what we call 'triangulation' because it involves a trio of people: You, your friend, and the narcissist.

3. Narcissists will lie by omission.

The narcissist will seldom if ever, own up to his or her own flaws. I know an individual who has an extensive criminal history including a string of prosecutions and civil lawsuits spanning years. He never mentions those. He only exaggerates my flaws.

4. Narcissists will step up their smear campaign?.
Again, it's all about control. It's all about controlling you. Before, they controlled you during your fake friendship. Now that the relationship has ended, they control you by smearing you and turning your friends against you.

5. Narcissists will invent an alternate reality.

In one case, the narcissist invented an alternate reality in which he was being oppressed because of his religious convictions. He surrendered his driver's license to overt government control. He told no one that his driver's license was suspended after he failed to appear in court. He had no checking account to avoid the New World Order's control of the banking system. He told no one that his checking accounts were suspended after he was convicted of check deception and sentenced to a year in jail.

6. Narcissists will leave you devastated.

In almost every case, you would be better off had you never formed a relationship with the narcissist.

What to do?

Granted, it's disheartening when friends and family reject you due to the lies of a narcissist. Your reputation may have been damaged beyond repair. Many people see you as evil and the narcissist as good. But that is not your fault. Keep in mind that your reputation and your character are two different things. Your reputation is who people think you are. Your character is who you really are. And if some of your friends and family can't see you for who you really are, do you really need them in your life?